Dreams are funny things. You can remember them. You can forget them. You can have them or not have them. You can lose them and find them again. Or as this post suggests you can follow them. Growing up I loved watching Elvis Presley movies. There were always pretty girls, hot cars, great scenery, and it didn’t matter that Elvis always got the girl, routed the bad guys, and saved the day. Movies like Viva Las Vegas, Kid Galahad, and Kissing Cousins were cute but the one that always stuck with me was Follow That Dream. It’s a typical movie of the 60s but one line of the lyrics “You’ve got to follow that dream where ever that dream may lead” always returned to me. I’ve had one dream in my life; to make a living with my own two hands. I’ve been lucky that I’ve always been able to do that. I’ve had a side or primary business for over 40 years and many of those years I made a living just with what I did, either logging, construction, or body piercing. Now I have a day job that I love but I also have a night job that I love just as much. I make things and finally after 60 years the things I make are being wanted and appreciated by those that have money and the need/want for them. My dream is coming true.
Many out there will say to follow something you have to leave something. To that I say no and quite an emphatic no. You can take what you want with you. There is no cosmic law that says you must leave everything to go somewhere else. If you have a home, job, family, take them with you. Make the following metaphoric. Stay where you are and follow that dream until you can bring it back to you.
My cousin needed a job after her second divorce. Divorce is something we do often in our family by the way, at least until we’ve had three then the fourth marriage seems to stick. Anyway she interviewed at a law firm and they asked if she could use a Dictaphone. You can see how long ago that was. She said yes and got the job. She then immediately called her friend who actually could use a Dictaphone and she practiced all weekend. It never dawned on her to say no. She had a dream and following it meant finding a Dictaphone and learning it. She was with that firm for over 20 years until she retired from there.
So what does that mean to all of you out there? One there is a dream for each of you. Two that dream won’t find you, you must find the dream. Three you don’t need to lose or discard anything to follow that dream and you won’t gain anything if you don’t follow that dream. And the big number four. The longest journey starts with the first step. So strap on your big girl or boy shoes and start walking. There are dreams to be followed.
Simon and Garfunkel had a song called “Keep The Customer Satisfied.” That philosophy is important when you are making Metaphysical Cookies. Let me give you a case in point. Last weekend I was at Florida Pagan Gathering. There I sold books, canes, wands, and boxes. One of the boxes was an apothecary box that holds 114 small bottles. The main part of the box held 90 small vials and the top and front both opened up to hold 24 larger bottles. The unique part of the box was that the front and top held the bottles upright when opened, even though when closed the bottles would fall out when the box closed. Therefore to everyone I showed the box to I made certain to say ‘you must take the bottles out or they will fall out. That’s why there is a shelf built into the box to hold the bottles.”
A woman came to my booth and I gave her the speech. She asked some questions and then bought the box. Two days later she writes me saying she’s been trying to get in contact with me for days and that the box has a design flaw. She posts on her Facebook that the box has a design flaw without talking to me or contacting me. She assumes that the box is the problem, but at that point I had no idea what was going on.
After I talk to her I learn that not only did she ignore the fact that I told her to remove the bottles but she closed the box and broke the oil bottles on the shelf. She tells me the box is ruined and she wants her money back. Here comes the satisfied part. When we sell to the public we must deal with more than the ‘prudent man’ philosophy. The prudent man theory says that an average man with average intelligence will act in an average way in a situation. It is what most legal cases are based on with damages. This woman was not a prudent man.
I tell the woman to mail the box back to me by UPS or FedEx and I’ll cut her a check for the box and the shipping. “Oh, you want the box back before you refund my money?” she says. I explain I can’t refund her money until I know how much is shipping and what the box looks like. Again I mention that she was told about the box and again I was told by her that I never said anything.
When the box is returned I will cut her a check for the refund. The woman is at fault; there was also a staff member of the event in the tent when I sold her the box who witnessed me tell her about the bottles, but that is inconsequential. The customer is always right, even when they are wrong. Those who know about this situation know what actually happened. The woman will go about her business until she tries this again with someone else, but by then, the other venders will be fore warned. Eventually Karma will knock on her door or if it doesn’t then that’s not my problem.
This is the important part about making and selling cookies. For every one hundred or one thousand happy people there is always that one stupid person who really angers you. If you let it get to you then eventually you will quit making cookies and the stupid people win. Recover what you can from the situation and move on. People will remember you took the high ground and appreciate that. The stupid people of the world will always be stupid. Revel in that and the fact that you are not one of them.
Yesterday I was talking to someone I golf with. I had mentioned wands and wood and making things a few times to him but as he stood in my driveway we really talked about what I make and for whom. He blinked a few times and said “Witches?” I said yes I’m a witch and I make wands for them. That’s when he confided that he was a Born Again Christian. I must admit that I was probably as surprised at his revelation as he was at mine. I don’t think of people as Born Again since I don’t really know any, or at least I didn’t think I did. That’s when I remembered the two things I learned when I came down south decades ago; that one most people think that everyone is a form of Christian; Christian Assumptive, and that two most everyone I meet assumes that I am straight because I am married; Hetero Assumptive.
I am just as guilty, though. I make the Assumptions that most people I meet are Orientation Acceptant and that most folks I hang out with are Pagan Acceptant. Fortunately my new golf friend is both but we don’t talk religion, which is probably good since golf has a way of bringing out the worse in any religion when you are playing badly and we are vying for who gets that honor.
So I ask you all: Are you Assumptive? Do you assume that someone is like you because they look the part or act the part or talk the part? Does a woman or man with a wedding ring make you think that there is an opposite sex spouse waiting somewhere for this person? If the individual is wearing something other than a cross do you look past that and think it’s just jewelry, even though it may be an Ankh or a Pentagram, or a Thor’s Hammer, or a Celtic Tree? And does it really matter?
Some on this list may say yes it matters greatly. However I will be assumptive one more time. I think that most on this blog will say “who gives a Darn.” Let’s all be Acceptive Assumptive
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